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Love is a Verb: Start With Yourself 

Everyone wants to feel loved, heard, seen and understood. From a young age, every person turns to immediate family for this ongoing daily dose of care. If you were lucky, love flowed steadily and was generously given to you by others. 

As you grew into an adult, even in the best of family upbringings, you likely discovered ways that you needed and longed to be loved yet did not ever receive. Shadows and wounds crept up and in when you realized that, at times, your emotional needs didn’t feel important. Or, maybe you were made to feel invisible now and then. Whatever your wound looks like, likely, a parental figure didn’t give you the love you fully needed to thrive. 

Hurts and disappointments were tucked away, only to be discovered years later as you became an adult. Even if your parents were Mother Theresa and Ghandi, they, too, are imperfect, and likely couldn’t have given you every ounce of love you needed and deserved. 

As an adult, you have the opportunity to create your “love committee”. Love is not only a feeling, love is a verb. It is expression in action. While another human is likely incapable of meeting EVERY single one of your needs, the one person who IS available for that level of active love is your own self. 

How do you speak to yourself when you make a mistake? Are you forgiving and understanding, or do you call yourself “stupid” with frustration? How do you treat yourself in times of failure? Do you speak to yourself like a loving parent would to their young child, or do you criticize yourself and engage in self beat-up? Do you look at yourself in the mirror and see your beauty or criticize your imperfections, wishing for a different reflection in return? Do you give space to nurture your dreams, or do you belittle your heart’s desires?

Self-love is possibly one of the most transformative spiritual practices you can create in your life. It starts with you taking a stand with and for yourself. This daily practice leads you to become your biggest fan, most reliable friend and greatest hero. 

As an exercise, look at yourself in the mirror for just two minutes every day. Tell yourself, out loud, the things you wish you had heard as a child, but didn’t. “I’m here with you. I love you. I see you. Let me care for you. You’ve got this. You are deserving. Your needs matter. You are so, so beautiful.”

Speak to yourself in a way that fills you with care. It may feel awkward at first (anything new feels awkward or scary, so don’t let that be an excuse), but just like falling in love with another person takes time, give yourself time to nurture a love story that will carry you through for the rest of your life. Love is a verb, and giving love to yourself is perhaps the most impactful and sustaining love you’ll ever know.

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Your Most Important Artwork is Your Life

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Ronnie was afraid of creating her first portrait painting, and she did not think she could do it. She was visibly nervous. 
With a handpicked recipe of encouragement, step-by-step art techniques, the sharing of a few of my favorite tricks, a caring community of friends, and most of all, Ronnie's positive spirit, she didn't only create a portrait, she created a meaningful mixed-media painting that she can't wait to frame and hang in her home! And I'm quite sure she felt relaxed and enjoyed every step of the journey! 


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Creative myth buster! "I don't have space, I don't have time, I don't have the money." What if you didn't need much space, money nor time to express creativity, and yet you would still receive the wellness benefits? I painted this in an 11.5" x 8" notebook on a small glass table with $7 watercolors. No mess, no fuss, and VERY emotionally nurturing and satisfying. 

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Alexis Fedor

I arrived in NYC at age 24 to attend grad school at NYU’s Gallatin School to study Cross-Cultural Dance and Theater with a focus on the Classical Indian performance styles of Bharatanatyam and Kathakali. Sitting in my first seminar titled “Performances of Magnitude” taught by the infamous Richard Schechner, I became acutely aware that I couldn’t have picked a more obscure focus for my degree if I tried (ok, maybe if I tried…).

In that moment, I knew I was going to have to get exceptionally creative if I didn’t want to graduate with an MA and find myself immersed in “day jobs” so I could come home at night and write about Krishna’s role in the landscape of Indian mythology (a favorite topic of mine to wax poetical about). I wanted to write and perform for a living my way, without the distraction of side jobs I wasn’t passionate about.

When I left NYU, I had two plays written, three shows in production, a web series written and produced with an invitation to join the Writers Guild, and not a clue as to how I was going to pay my bills past the next two months. The stress was blinding. I had faith and confidence in myself and my abilities to carve out a successful career as an artist, but was having serious doubt and anxiety about how I was going to make it financially for the long term. And I believed there had to be a way to bridge that gap once and for all.

That was when I realized as an artist I am a business owner by default- that, in fact, every artist who makes a living with their art owns their own business. We are taxed as freelancers at the very least, which is a business owned by a single person. But I didn’t understand how to run a business like a successful entrepreneur- I never acquired that skill set. I knew how to land certain jobs here and there, but I didn’t know how to create consistent and predictable income throughout the year.

So, I decided to figure that out by starting my own business. I spent a year taking marketing courses while developing my concept for an online t-shirt company with designs by artists from around the world. I sought advice from some of the top entrepreneurs, grew my community (literally thinking to myself, “this is going to be easy!”) and then launched the company.

And there were crickets.

Nothing happened- very few sales came in- and 12 months later I had to close the doors. I had no idea what I had done wrong, but I felt if I couldn’t get a simple t-shirt company up and running, I certainly was never going to make a consistent income as a writer and choreographer. I didn’t want to work for someone else, I didn’t want to apply for grants, I wanted to run a business as an artist, my way (stubborn, I know- ask my mom.)

I had secretly given up while trying to smile through the pain of figuring out my next move to a day job, when I met a man named Roger Webster who owned a successful PR company and was looking for a writer and marketing expert to run the online campaigns for his high-end clients. He liked my honesty (I told him I didn’t think he should hire me because I clearly didn’t know what I was doing and had just watched my own online business tank) and quickly became my mentor. He said, “I believe in you- so I want to look at your marketing plan to see where you went wrong.”

We sat down, he took one look and said, “when are you creative people going to learn??” And from there proceeded to show me the HUGE mistake I made that only creative people make in business (his words). And from there, I designed a campaign for his client, The American Cancer Society, that enabled them to exceed their fundraising goal, had a six-figure writing and consulting business within six months, and six months after that began teaching other writers and artists how to do the same.

I have now had the privilege of having over 5,000 artists join my community and tell me firsthand what their single biggest question is when it comes to selling their art: how to find and connect with their true ideal client.

This is, of course, the main question every business has in the beginning and the most important to solve. For fine artists, solving this has enabled them to create consistent and predictable streams of revenue in their businesses, which brings me to what I have to share with you today.

I have created a special free video training series that answers this question with the three main elements you have to put into action in order to discover, connect with and sell to your most ideal clients.

And that training starts Sept 27th, 2017. It’s highly interactive, with exercises designed to help you take action and see fast results, especially if you’re just starting on your business venture!

So be sure to click here to register.

I look forward to seeing you there!!


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Art is a guarantee to sanity.” - Louise Bourgeois, French-American artist 

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A dose of art each day is really IMPORTANT.  

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To every season, change. To every day, change. As the artist of your life, you have the freedom to choose how you respond and interact with change. An artist, you have creative power in every moment. Do you accept change? Do you fight change? Do you embrace change? Do you fear change? 

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